This is one is rough post to write about. One of my key hopes with my platform is to able to spread positivity and sunshine to you lovely readers. It is difficult to write about something that brings me sadness right now but its important. Without sadness we wouldn’t appreciate the good times. I hope to be able to serve as some sort of shoulder to lean on for at least one person. I am not writing this to be angry or to ask for any type of pity. I’m writing this for you, the person that might be going through a breakup. I am also writing this for myself, in order to let go what is on my mind.
So yes, as I am currently writing this I am healing from a breakup. I will not go into details because it is very much private. However I will say that it is a hard rollercoaster of emotions. I wish that throughout this post you guys will find a tip that helps you. With that being said, whenever you are reading this just remember that as I write I am going through those feelings. This is not me talking about feelings from long ago. These are feelings that I am going through right now, so I get you.
the first thing to remember…
It is hard. Whether it is your first true love or not, it is difficult. It is difficult to part with someone that you spent time and energy on. So the first thing I want you to remember is this: it is absolutely okay to be upset. It is 100% okay to be disappointed and be sad and to even cry it out. You are no less of a person for being upset. At the same time, if you are okay that is wonderful as well. Everyone goes through the healing process differently. So if you’re immediately overwhelmed with emotions, that is understandable. It is something you are entitled to so take all the time you need. In my own experience, I did get upset and I did have moments where I got emotional.
Now on the subject of emotions, do try to not be verbally or physically angry. Whether the other person is at fault (lack of communication, cheating, etc.), you need to remember that anger will not solve this. This is a difficult tip especially if you feel like you were cheated of your time after this breakup. Anger will not help the healing process go by quicker or easier, in fact it will prolong it. It is okay to feel like the other person is at fault. But channel that angry energy into the healing process in a positive manner. One thing I have learned is that I can sit around and be angry all I want, it won’t bring the relationship back. Not only will it not bring the relationship back but it won’t help me feel better.
I feel better by surrounding myself with my trusted loved ones and leaning on them. I know that this isn’t always an option to everyone, but you are more than welcome to slide into my DMs if you need someone to rant to or for a meme.
It sucks. Thats just the ultimate thing I want you to know. It sucks and its painful. But think about all that you have learned and all that you have gained. I am someone who has learned what they deserve and what they want in the future. I hope you all gain something positive from a failed relationship. Everything you go through (bad or good), is there to help you get stronger for whats to come. You are all positive lights in this world and you need to remember that.
Thats all I have for you today.I know theres some greater things to come in the future even if I do feel sad at times. And until then, I will enjoy my 20’s and the moment I am in right now. A breakup isn’t the end of the world but it is valid to feel upset.
Again, if you need to talk to someone always feel like you can shoot me an email or hit me up on social media to talk. I want everyone to find joy and happiness in this sadness. Thank you all so much!!
Need more positivity? Check out my last Manifestation Monday post! (ironically about love, I wrote it before alright)
Until Next Time,